William Kabogo is a man who usually talks himself into controversies till controversy has become his second name. The latest one was sparked off when he said that single women lack values and should not be elected. “We must not elect leaders who do not have family values. I ask you women who are more than 35 years old and not married to get married as you are the reason men have problems”, he said.
His statement drew condemnation from women who demanded a public apology from the Kiambu governor. Even though his statement was a veiled attack on Thika town MP Alice Ng’ang’a who is single, I partly concur with the statement. I would have fully concurred with it if he would also have added single men in his statement. Before you start directing your guns at me, let me take you down memory lane during the days of Apostle Paul in order to justify my stand.
In the book of 1 Timothy 3:1 – 4, Apostle Paul writes to Timothy saying, “It is quite true to say that a man who sets his heart on holding office has laudable ambition. Well, for the office of a bishop (or Overseer or Leader) a man must be of blameless reputation, he must be married to one wife only, and be a man of self-control and discretion. He must be a man of disciplined life; he must be hospitable and have the gift of teaching. He must be neither intemperate nor violent, but gentle. He must not be a controversialist nor must he be fond of money-grabbing. He must have proper authority in his own household, and be able to control and command the respect of his children.”
Paul was advising Timothy on the qualities of a good leader. It doesn’t mean that it’s only married men who qualify to lead. This is an idiom whereby Paul was emphasizing on marital faithfulness in the leader who is already married. This can be either a man or a woman. So Kabogo was only emphasizing what Apostle Paul had already said earlier on. The only problem is that he targeted one gender.
In 2009, the former Manchester United manager Sir Alex Ferguson had this to say about Rooney who had visibly toned down his aggressiveness in the pitch after marrying. “There are some great players out there; Kaka, Ronaldo and Lionel Messi are the best three at the moment and I think Wyne can get to that level if he keeps making progress. But marriage helps footballers. It helps them settle down. It’s good for the stability of a footballer.” From the quote, it is crystal clear that leaders who are single are susceptible to aggression and instability as compared to their married counterparts.
The incumbent Mombasa county senator Hassan Omar Sarai married before he plunged into the murky waters of Mombasa politics. I don’t want to speculate that he married for political reasons, but am sure if he wouldn’t have done that, his opponents would have used his marital status as a weapon in their arsenals.
While I was thinking of many women who have excelled in various fields and worth being role models, I came up with the following list; Tabitha Karanja, Gladys Sholei, Carole Mandi, Prof. Christine Mango, Julia Ojiambo, Julie Gichuru just to mention but a few. Well, all these women have got one thing in common, can you identify it? Your guess is as good as mine.